When Failure Gets You By Heart

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Let's face it. Failure can be very painful - sometimes physically and more often emotionally. Seeing
part of your vision fall flat really hurts. And if people heap ridicule on top of your hurt
feelings,you feel even worse. The first important step in weathering failure is learning to not
personalize it - making sure you know that your failure does not make you a failure. But there's
more to it than that. For many people the pain of failure leads to fear of failure. And they become
like the person who says "I'm too old to cry, but it hurts too much to laugh." That's when many
people get stuck in the fear cycle. And if fear overcomes you, it's almost impossible to fail
forward.

Playwright George Bernard Shaw asserted, "A life spent in making mistakes is not only more honorable
but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." To overcome fear and break the cycle, you have to
be willing to recognize that you will spend much of your life making mistakes. The bad news is that
if you have been inactive for a long time, getting started is hard to do. The good news is that as
soon as you start moving, it gets easier.

If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience. That's why President Theodore
Roosevelt said, "He who makes no mistakes makes no progress. That experience eventually brings
competence, and you make fewer mistakes. As a result, your fear becomes less paralyzing. But the
whole cycle-breaking process starts with action. You must act your way into feeling, not wait for
positive emotions to carry you forward.

- Failing Forward (John C Maxwell)



Remember the above whenever you fear "rejections" ..

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sent by my dearest mentor..Ms Lu Yong Yong